The Mediator's Role My role as your mediator is to help you to: identify goals and shared interests; gather information; develop options; and communicate openly, honestly and civilly with the other party/parties.  I facilitate the discussions between you and your spouse, teen, siblings, parents or other family members. I provide a safe environment, encourage all of you to actively participate in making decisions, and help you to focus on goals for the future (and not on blame for the past). I make sure that all of you have the same complete and accurate information. I also help you to develop options and to consider the consequences of those options so that you can make informed decisions.  I remain neutral to the decisions reached by you and the other party/parties. I do not take sides, I do not make decisions for you and I do not determine what is right or wrong for your situation. The ultimate goal of mediation is to help you to communicate so that together you can develop a mutually acceptable agreement that considers the needs and concerns of all involved, an agreement that each of you is willing to respect going forward.