SEPARATION & DIVORCE
Are you thinking of Separating? In the process of Separating? Already Separated or Divorced but need to modify something?
The reality is that there is no one-size fits all divorce. What works for your family may not work for another.
If you have children creating a Parenting Plan as a first step in your separation is vital to a successful transition. Staying focused on your children allows you to start communicating and making decisions within the boundaries of your new relationship.
As a mediator I have a wealth of knowledge and exposure to a variety of schedules and options that we may need to call on. You really are the experts on your kids and they need you to make the decisions about how they will be cared for - as hard as that may be right now.
Normally lack of trust and emotions factor into how detailed a parenting plan should be. The less trust between the parents, the more detailed the plan should be. Both parents should have a voice and communicate directly regarding what is best for the children.
Once your parenting responsibilities are sorted you can move on more successfully with other aspects of your separation.
Most people dread completing their financial disclosure as part of their separation but it's a critical part.
I can help you complete the correct forms and prepare your Financial Plan which will outline how you want to divide your assets and liabilites, decisions regarding your marital home, what the child support will be and help you have a conversation about spousal support if applicable. In addition to being a mediator I am a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst which provides you with even more support.
Creating a divorce transition plan that works for your family is important. There is no right or wrong way to go about that, plans can be as unique as your family.
A Mediator can document your agreements into what is called a Memorandum of Understanding that can then be used to proceed with your formal separation agreement. This document is not legally binding. The purpose is to save you time, money and stress by making the decisions together instead of having your lawyers or a judge do it for you.
Making positive choices during your separation or divorce is the biggest success factor for how well you and your children handle and remember the transition.
If you are still struggling with your ex about parenting issues after your divorce, don't worry...I can help with that also. Take a look at this blog post for more information.